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Post by montegriffo on Jun 2, 2024 12:45:18 GMT
 I lost my mother last night. That's her on the left with her old schoolfriend Angela. She's had Alzheimer's for nearly 10 years and had gone downhill fast the last couple of months. After 3 weeks in hospital to treat a lung infection she was sent home to die a couple of weeks ago. It was definitely time, she couldn't get out of bed anymore and couldn't really eat or drink. My feelings are a mixture of sadness and relief. Here are some photos and a letter she wrote to Bottesford Living History a while ago which tells of her time in the village in her childhood. www.bottesfordhistory.org.uk/content/people/memory-lane/a-letter-from-margaret-montegriffoShe really was the perfect caring and loving mother. |
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Post by Steve on Jun 2, 2024 12:51:06 GMT
So sorry to see that Monte.
RIP your Mum
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Post by montegriffo on Jun 2, 2024 12:56:01 GMT
So sorry to see that Monte. RIP your Mum Thank you Steve. It's been a long time coming so I've had time to prepare for it. It's just a shame the disease took her last few years away from her. |
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Post by walterpaisley on Jun 2, 2024 17:07:18 GMT
Sorry to hear that, Monte'.
I realise that "long, drawn-out" versus "sudden, unexpected" deaths each carry different challenges for those left behind, but Alzheimer's is in a category of unique cruelly all it's own.
It really is the sh***iest possible experience for everyone around the sufferer.
Best wishes.
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Post by montegriffo on Jun 2, 2024 18:22:39 GMT
Sorry to hear that, Monte'. I realise that "long, drawn-out" versus "sudden, unexpected" deaths each carry different challenges for those left behind, but Alzheimer's is in a category of unique cruelly all it's own. It really is the sh***iest possible experience for everyone around the sufferer. Best wishes. Thanks Walter. Along with childhood cancer, Alzheimer's is all the proof I need that there is no God. Not even Thatcher deserved to go like that. |
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Post by Orac on Jun 3, 2024 10:31:04 GMT
My commiserations Monte,
I have yet to face all this. My thoughts are with you.
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Post by Zany on Jun 6, 2024 18:20:22 GMT
I lost my mother last night. That's her on the left with her old schoolfriend Angela. She's had Alzheimer's for nearly 10 years and had gone downhill fast the last couple of months. After 3 weeks in hospital to treat a lung infection she was sent home to die a couple of weeks ago. It was definitely time, she couldn't get out of bed anymore and couldn't really eat or drink. My feelings are a mixture of sadness and relief. Here are some photos and a letter she wrote to Bottesford Living History a while ago which tells of her time in the village in her childhood. www.bottesfordhistory.org.uk/content/people/memory-lane/a-letter-from-margaret-montegriffoShe really was the perfect caring and loving mother. Oh Monty, I'm so sorry. I read the letter she wrote, what a wonderful simple but heart warming life. |
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Post by patman post on Jun 11, 2024 15:02:52 GMT
Belated sympathies — I've only just seen your post.
You have my best wishes — I don't know how I'd cope with the conflicting emotions of loss and relief should a loved one suffering through a long-term chronic illness die.
As my Mum says at such times: hopefully the good memories will soon cover up the sadness...
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Post by montegriffo on Jun 11, 2024 17:20:30 GMT
Belated sympathies — I've only just seen your post. You have my best wishes — I don't know how I'd cope with the conflicting emotions of loss and relief should a loved one suffering through a long-term chronic illness die. As my Mum says at such times: hopefully the good memories will soon cover up the sadness... One small blessing with Alzheimer's is that, apart from the final stages, there isn't that much suffering for the patient. Mum never really knew there was anything wrong with her. It's the carers who really suffer. Her partner, Peter, has been a saint throughout. She was very lucky to have such a good man. |
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Post by Zany on Jun 11, 2024 18:59:43 GMT
Belated sympathies — I've only just seen your post. You have my best wishes — I don't know how I'd cope with the conflicting emotions of loss and relief should a loved one suffering through a long-term chronic illness die. As my Mum says at such times: hopefully the good memories will soon cover up the sadness... One small blessing with Alzheimer's is that, apart from the final stages, there isn't that much suffering for the patient. Mum never really knew there was anything wrong with her. It's the carers who really suffer. Her partner, Peter, has been a saint throughout. She was very lucky to have such a good man. My Dad went like that. At first he was constantly worried he'd not done something though he didn't know what, but soon he just sat in his chair watching the things go on around him. |
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Post by montegriffo on Jun 11, 2024 19:06:59 GMT
One small blessing with Alzheimer's is that, apart from the final stages, there isn't that much suffering for the patient. Mum never really knew there was anything wrong with her. It's the carers who really suffer. Her partner, Peter, has been a saint throughout. She was very lucky to have such a good man. My Dad went like that. At first he was constantly worried he'd not done something though he didn't know what, but soon he just sat in his chair watching the things go on around him. Mum was one of those really busy people. Always liked to be doing something. You had to watch her like a hawk or she'd wander into the kitchen and empty all the cupboards. A favourite was to go out into the garden 5 mins after you had put the washing on the line and bring it all back in again still soaking wet. |
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Post by Zany on Jun 11, 2024 19:29:23 GMT
My Dad went like that. At first he was constantly worried he'd not done something though he didn't know what, but soon he just sat in his chair watching the things go on around him. Mum was one of those really busy people. Always liked to be doing something. You had to watch her like a hawk or she'd wander into the kitchen and empty all the cupboards. A favourite was to go out into the garden 5 mins after you had put the washing on the line and bring it all back in again still soaking wet. Bless her. Many years ago a work colleague went to see his mum and found she had buttered the kitchen cupboards, when he asked her why she burst into tears and said she had run out of bread. Never forgotten that. |
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Post by vinny on Jun 18, 2024 19:53:23 GMT
Deepest sympathy.
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Post by montegriffo on Jun 18, 2024 20:20:06 GMT
Thanks Vinny, funeral next Tuesday. Will play my favourite hymn. |
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